In the early months of 2015, we approached my parents about a house we wanted to buy.
Now it wasn’t just any house, it was a great big, really gross, in need of major renovations house.
Would they be interested in moving to a 1000 sf mother in law apartment attached to the big old house? We would renovate and create a space that would be perfect for them. They would be fully functioning in their space with their own kitchen and laundry room. This would mean selling their current home which was a nice home with every amenity they needed or wanted.
They said Yes!
Fast forward to September 2015. The house was ours and we would begin the journey of renovating our 1903 house.
Many long days and nights were spent creating a home for us and during renovations Courtney and Justin decided to get married.
“Where will you live?” The question was spoken out loud a few times during wedding conversations.
“The old house is big enough for us all, if you want to live here.”
They said yes!
House renovations were a family affair. We all had skin in the game.
Courtney and Justin began their lives as husband and wife on the front porch of the old house
Jack William Wissinger was born upstairs in the old house and will soon be celebrating his first birthday…….At the old house.
Mom and Dad lived in the 1000 sf apartment together for 14 months. Dad went to heaven on December 30, 2017. I believe that Dad was probably the most excited about the old house. He worked everyday tirelessly and never complained. He would say during renovation, “I wouldn’t change a thing and I would do it al over again.” Dad took his last breath in the old house.
All of this back story to say, we are a multi-generational household and we do it not because we have to, but because we get to.
In the last few months, there have been some comments made to me in regards to our living arrangements. Good comments!
“I love the dynamics of your household.”
“Your family living together is so cool.”
Yes it is.
However it’s not perfect. 5 adults and baby can get a little crazy sometimes.
Everyone has their quirks.
Probably me the most. It’s a learning experience and patience is necessary. Dishwasher loading has become an Olympic event and don’t even get me started on the kitchen counters.
However, there is always someone to talk to and don’t even get me started when we have company. It’s so fun! Naked girls room is always available for visitors.
There is always a room to hide if you need solitude. A multi-generation house has to have boundaries. There must be a quiet places too.
We eat together most times and there is always Sunday night family dinner. We gave a big table, come on over.
We play together.
We laugh and lately we have cried. Sometimes together and lots of times alone.
We have planned together. Planned what? Who cares! Sometimes it’s a walk to the park and sometimes it’s when we will cook hot dogs over the new fire pit. We have planned a garden this spring.
Our house dynamic has changed since Dad left. We went from 6 to 5 and its just not the same but we are working hard at it. Justin came home with a note for Nana yesterday. He told her how proud he was of her and that he would strive to be as brave as her. She cried……happy tears. We all did. The relationship that Justin and Nana might not have happened if you didn’t share the same roof.
You don’t have to live in the same house to care for your people. Give them a call. Write them a letter.
Do it now.
You don’t have to, you get to.