The saying “it takes a village” might be overused.
It might be cliche’.
It might be hokey.
However I believe with all my heart that it’s true.
My big kids don’t need me. They could raise their babies without my assistance. However they want me. That makes it more special to know that I can be of assistance. I don’t need to parent…..they have that job down pat.
When I stopped working a paid job, I was able to spend time with Dad before he left for heaven. Now, I get to spend time with Mom, play with Jack, go to lunch with friends, volunteer at wonderful organizations and fill in the gaps for others.
Recently I was approached about filling in a gap for our Pastor and his wife. Their babysitter had a sick kid and they needed somewhere for their sweet girls to spend a few hours until they got off work.
As I prepared for their arrival, I told my friends about my upcoming day. “That doesn’t sound like retirement” was a comment. No, I guess it doesn’t. However retirement to me feels like the mission field. It’s opportunities to see the needs of others and help.
Not everyone has family in their town. Not everyone has a stand in grandparent to fill in the gaps in case of emergency.
Charlotte came to play.
Charlotte is 3 (almost 4 in November according to her), Jack is 2 1/4 and Luke is 5 days old.
I was the chief babysitter but we are a village. We are all hands on deck when help is needed.
Courtney is recovering but she took time to read to Charlotte and Jack while I made snacks for everyone else.
Justin is on paternity leave, but we are a village and sometimes he needs to take care of business or care for his wife and infant son. Jack is my best buddy and playing outside is his favorite thing to do.
Recently our friends traveled to Tennessee to care for their grandkids so the parents could go away on an anniversary trip. What a gift to their grown up kids. Peace knowing that your babies are cared for and loved. And the memories made with those grandkids will never be forgotten.
A village is what it is.
Stand in the gap in whatever season of life you are in. You might not be in the place currently to stand in the gap and maybe you need someone to stand in the gap for you. One day it will be your turn but for now, find your village.