Vulnerability and Pom Poms

This months book is Daring Greatly by Brene’ Brown.

The author has studied vulnerability from every perspective imaginable.

I didn’t get it.

The definition of vulnerability is:

1: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded
2: open to attack or damage 
Why would one want to be vulnerable? It sounds counter productive to me. Why would I want for others to see me differently? They might not like me and I would open myself up to criticism. I definitely don’t like that.
However speaking to my daughter in regards to being vulnerable, if you are open…… you are understood and known better.
As we prayed at the Interfaith Thrift Store this morning, my friend Crystal spoke of being so wounded on the inside but putting the pretty on the outside so that everything seems to beautiful. It’s ok to be sad. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to ask for help. The power of her words were impactful.
Who puts on the fake smile day in and day out when the insides are weeping?

When Steve travels, I try and schedule time with friends. Dinner or a movie is always a good girls night out and it’s not taking any couple time away.

Tonight, Diane and I went to see the movie Poms. It was about some over 60 year old women, all different sizes, shapes, ethnicities. Some battled health issues and other struggles.

They lived in a senior community and the movie showed how a group of women, no matter their age could defy the odds and enter a cheer competition.

During one scene, Diane Keaton’s character had all the women sit in front of a mirror and name something they liked about themselves.

I cried.

Because the women could hardly name one thing they liked about themselves.

How many women, including me, can look at themselves in the mirror and only see the wrinkles, the scars, the saggy skin, the acne, the gray hair, the thinning hair and the list could go on and on.

How many woman can’t see past their past and the mistakes they have made? How many can’t see past what others have spoken out loud to them?

When women who look towards each other see the beauty. The beauty from the smile, the way one carries herself, the gorgeous hair, the killer body, the confidence, the ability to dress stylishly, the kindness and this list would go on even further.

We as women, are so hard on ourselves. The comparison game is by far harder than it’s ever been.

This sweet movie moved me.

Being vulnerable is hard but don’t you think it’s better for the people you surround yourself with to be authentic?




Will it be easy? I’ll bet you $1 million dollars it will not.

Will it be worth it. I will bet you $1,000,001 it will.

About Charmadawn

Jesus lover 💜 Wife of Steve for 36 years 💜 Mom to 2 grown kiddos 💜 BB to grandsons Jack, Luke and Patrick Joseph 💜5 years ago we purchased, Rescued and Restored a 118 year old farmhouse and we live together as a multigenerational household. Come follow our crazy. Isaiah 54:7
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