The statement “people don’t do this anymore” was spoken a few weeks ago while we sat around the pool on a Saturday evening dangling our feet in the water.
Huh? was my first thought?
People don’t do what?
I have had that statement rattling around in my head now for weeks.
In the last 3 months, we have had friends over every other weekend. Sometimes to swim, sometimes to eat, sometimes to play board games or last night, dice!
When we decided to stop attending our church, we left a a lot of friends. Just because you don’t attend the same church building doesn’t mean your friendship has to go away. Right?
I was honestly terrified of losing friends that we have had for years! We spoke often as to how we would not let that happen and intentionality is the name of the game.
You must, and I repeat, you MUST be intentional. Ask the people…….they will come.
I’ve learned the hard way, it doesn’t have to be a big deal. Everyone wants to help. They will bring snacks to share.
Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.
We use the table in the pool house.
Why would we sit outside when it’s 100 degrees?
Because we have a 2 year old that goes to bed early and our games get heated and loud.
People stand because it’s hot and the benches hurt your butt. It was loud. It was hot.
And guess who won? Mom!!
But you know what? It was so much fun. Filling your life with people is what it’s all about. Being vulnerable and asking people to come over. Our house was a mess and the pie was lumpy. Some brought watermelon and some brought Chex mix in a ziploc bag.
It was an incredible night of laughter and stray kittens.
So I will have to rebuke the statement “people don’t do this anymore” because we do and will continue opening our home. Inviting new friends and old friends, sassy friends and quiet friends, couple and singles, young and not so old friends.
It’s what we do.
My love tank is full.